ATTENTION: A Change Is Occurring!!

 At times, we have to look really hard to see change. It can be even harder to see change in people we've been frustrated with or expecting change from. We'd almost rather pretend they haven't changed at all because a lot of times we think they'll just go back to their "old" selves, unless some crazy miracle happens. When it does happen, it's fantastic. Especially when we ourselves goes through a good change in our own personalities.

 The thing that jiggles my brain is how it's easier for us to see a physical change than a personality change. Physical changes can be simple to make but personality changes are not easy. You have to actually sit down, stop being in denial about things, think about what it is you need to change, decide to change, make goals to change, then actually change. After you do all that, you have to try and make it a habit. You know what they say about habits....it takes about a month to create a habit and make it stay! Even then, people fail at it all the time. You can have a huge internal enlightenment about changing something about yourself and be making an effort, but no one may notice.

 Lets say you were trying to reduce your temper about things like road rage but nobody ever rides with you in your car. How in the world is anyone going to notice your change and congratulate you, or even encourage you?? It's just not fair! Or other things like being more happy or going out of your way to do things for people....maybe you're good one day and not the next but sometimes people don't notice that.

 As I was mentioning before, physical changes are seen immediately. I know if I wear my hair down or put on a dress, eyes are turning and friends are noticing because it's definitely not the norm for me. This is great but it didn't take much work. Yes, it is flattering and I do like the compliments but I'd rather be complimented on the hard work it took me to change a part of my personality than the work on my appearance!

 Since I've come to this conclusion, I'm going to try and focus my attention more on people's personality changes and by this I don't mean judge their every action, but encourage my friends and let them know that I appreciate them and the wonderful things their doing for me and other people.